Got a letter in the mail today. From BFBF (Big Fat Bitch Face, AKA Tink's mom, to those of you that are not familiar). Saying that she is moving out of this school district (about 25 miles away total) and taking Tink with her. In two fucking weeks. If we can't drive Tink AN HOUR to school (about 20 miles past their house in the opposite direction of our house) in the morning, we lose our Wednesday overnights with her so says BFBF. I had to lock my keys in my car to avoid driving to her house and tap dancing on her skull.
Who in the hell is she to just "decide" that she uproot Tink and move her away from her school and her friends? And then only give us two weeks notice on top of everything else? I know damn well she can't just decide that we lose our overnights. That's a custody order violation and I'm sure Big Daddy wouldn't hesitate to have her ass thrown in jail for contempt. I don't think she understands that they SHARE joint legal custody 50/50 over Tink. This means that they BOTH decide what is best for her in the long run. BFBF may have the 60/40 advantage on day to day decisions for Tink, but this is ridiculous.
The reasons that the letter gave as to why she "needed" to move were weak at best. It stated that she and Tink weren't happy with the school district. Hello? When she and Big Daddy divorced, she moved to this area because of HOW GREAT THE SCHOOL DISTRICT IS! This is not a district that people move out of...it is a district that people move into. And Tink is a month into first grade. No school is that horrible in first grade. All of her grades are above average so it's not like she's flunking out because of how miserable she is.
Number two on that point, Big Daddy and myself uprooted our lives and moved here so we didn't lose our overnights with Tink when she started school. I switched my son's schools (which is one of the best decisions I've ever made, by the way) so that shows that we are serious about keeping the family dynamic running smoothly for Tink. We're not yanking her out of a school where she has friends (and BFBF has stated previously that she is concerned about Tink's social skills so it's important that she goes to daycare to be around her friends instead of coming here for babysitting) and making her start over. And BFBF was the one talking about wanting to make sure that Tink had a "stable life" when she and Big Daddy split up? How in the fuck is she stable when she's moving and uprooting her child to her fourth house in two years (from her and Big Daddy's place, to her mom's, to their current house, to the future house)?
Number three, she stated that she was moving to that area because she needed support from her family and that was in Tink's best interest. So let me get this right, taking Tink away from her father so she can spend more time with BFBF's family is in her best interest? I could see how that might work if we were raging alcoholics or drug abusers but we're not. Plus Tink now has a little brother here and according to everything I've read online, the courts like to see siblings spend as much time together as possible.
Like I said, weak at best. She isn't moving closer to her job or moving to take a job that pays more and from everything that I've been told, that is the biggest reason that judges let this kind of thing occur. So we'll see. Big Daddy already called a lawyer (a vicious MF'er that's been in family law forever) and we are going to fight this until the bitter end. There is no way that this stupid woman is going to walk all over Big Daddy like that. Maybe she did it while they were married, but now he has a different support system and I will back him until we spend our very last penny keeping Tink with us as much as possible. BFBF can kiss my ass. No one hurts someone I love without repercussions (and this time we're even doing it the legal way).
So BFBF, if you ever read this I would like to tell you that you are a coward. You moved here because you didn't think Big Daddy would follow. We did. Now you're running scared again because you are so afraid that Tink might actually love her Daddy just as much as she does you (which is how it works in a healthy, functioning family...something that you've never known). I can see right through that smile that your wear to the insecurities that have shattered your self-confidence underneath. You're so afraid that now that Tink will see all of the games that you are trying to play and you're trying to keep it from happening. You fail to remember that Tink is a very smart girl and she will see it eventually. You've shot yourself in the foot more times than I can count and you are about to do it again. Think long and hard before you fuck with my family. We will see you in court.
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